I’ve been arrested and I went to jail.
Yep, you read that right! Once when I was 19 and again when I was 22.
And that’s just the start of my failures to date.
Why am I telling you this? Read on to find out…
The first company I founded was A Tailored Suit, which specialized in quality custom clothing. Not only did I fail to succeed, I also took A Tailored Suit into bankruptcy.
And before that, I got fired 3 months into my first job out of Business School.
And before that, I started out with a Naval Aviator Contract in the Marine Core. I got two years into flight school and I failed.
If I look back, I’ve failed.
Again, and again. And again.
But… I didn’t stop. I thought:
1. I will persist until I succeed. I will succeed until I persist.
I’m not telling you this for sympathy or to give you a cheap laugh (though feel free to laugh if it makes you feel better!). I’m telling you this because you need to understand that failure does not define you.
Failure is inevitable. To succeed in life, you have to fail. Failing allows you to learn from your mistakes. It’s what we do when we fall down that’s important; it’s how we pick ourselves back up.
That’s what defines a man.
Me, Myself And My Failures
So back to the subject of this article. (I know that’s what got your interest in the first place!).
When I was younger, I was partying too hard. I was running from the Police, climbing buildings and generally doing stupid things.
But after getting thrown in jail overnight for the second time, I knew I had to take action. I realized I may have a drinking problem and so I cut out drinking, period.
2. I will persist until I succeed. I will succeed until I persist.
Some people love to drink regularly, some people enjoy a few drinks with friends now and again. I’m not going to judge anyone but I knew I had to stop and I’m very glad I did.
This doesn’t mean I don’t have enjoy myself any more. I still hang out with friends, it just means I don’t need alcohol to enjoy myself. It does mean I no longer climb buildings but I discovered early on that it wasn’t a career I could succeed in.
If you’re wondering what happens when you quit drinking, you might enjoy this video by Aaron Marino over at Alfa M – 10 Surprising Things That Happened When I Quit Drinking. (Hint – it certainly didn’t affect his confidence!)
3. I will persist until I succeed. I will succeed until I persist.
With alcohol out of the question, I went back to school and I enrolled in Business School at the University of Texas at Austin. I didn’t drink through this time (…honestly!). Instead I studied and I applied myself and graduated with a perfect GPA.
After A Tailored Suit, I created Real Men Real Style, the million dollar company you see today. It’s amazing what you can achieve after you pick yourself up after failure.
But I wouldn’t have been able to do any of this without my friends, peers and family.
You are the average of the company you keep.
You become the average of the people you surround yourself with. Real friends are those who will stand by you through thick and thin and these are the people you want in your life.
I get it, some guys work long hours and have little time for socializing. Others have jobs which sees them spending a lot of time alone. Or some guys may struggle to make friends ‘naturally’.
4. I will persist until I succeed. I will succeed until I persist.
So how to you ‘find’ people like you?
The Route To Success – Menfluential 2019
We tend to socialize with people who have shared interests. After all, it gives us something to talk about! And that’s why I created Menfluential – an annual two-day conference hosted in Atlanta Georgia.
We call it a ‘conference’ but it’s more of a party. I’ve said this before but we don’t actually make a lot of money out of Menfluential. It’s a labor of love and it’s a life changing event for everyone involved. There’s no better way to build lifelong friendships with people who share your goal of becoming better a better man. It’s packed with actionable knowledge and life-changing keynote speakers and has grown year on year since conception.
If you can’t get to Atlanta, you can buy a virtual ticket online and watch live from the comfort of your own home. For 2019, we’re rolling out a new feature so you and your friends can enjoy the party even if you’re not there. If you and at least 2 other guys are watching together, we’ll get you up on screen and you’ll be able to interact directly with the guys at the show.
If you’re an entrepreneur, influencer, or simply someone who wants to meet new people and build lifelong friendships – this is the event for you.
5. I will persist until I succeed. I will succeed until I persist.
Click here to visit the Menfluential website or click Here To Watch The Video – Menfluential 2019.
How To Succeed – In Summary
The phrase, ‘Improvise, Adapt, Overcome’ is said to be the unofficial Marines slogan. It embodies the Marines Corps Core Values of Honor, Courage, and Commitment and it can be applied to any situation you find yourself in.
Improvise, Adapt, Overcome.
So back to my story of woe… what happened when I didn’t succeed in flight school? I improvised, I adapted and I overcame; I saw an opportunity and enrolled in the Infantry – 3rd Battalion, 1st Marines.
I had great mentors and I was surrounded by people who cared about me. This environment transformed me into a better leader and into the man you see before you today.
And the rest is history!
My readers and I have one thing in common. We’re looking to be the best men we can be. And this can be a lonely path. It can be but it doesn’t have to be.
Gentlemen, if this video is finding you in a tough spot, remember – there are people out there who care about you. Find them and reach out to them. No good has ever come from isolating yourself. Maybe you know someone who would benefit from this article. Why not send them a link? Or give them a call and catch up.
Or why not get yourself and a couple of friends you haven’t seen in a while together and get a Menfluential live pass? It would be a great way to reconnect with people you haven’t seen in a while.
That’s it for now. And I’ll see you in February!